The Moment it All Shifted: The "Change" that Gave Me Clarity

We hear about all the Glitz & Glam of entrepreneurship and how everyone is living their best life. Listen, I’m not here for the shitz! It’s a lot that happens before all the glow up takes place and that’s what I want you to know. Don’t get stuck on someone’s highlights. They had to go through some real ish before you were able to experience what they have produced.

I don’t know about you, but it seems like everyone is telling only part of the story and that’s the success portion. What about the days you were sitting on the side of the bed crying, the days you woke up and didn’t know where or how to begin? I firmly believe that’s what’s missing. We are experiencing many highlights and not enough of the full story. The issue with that is, when people only see the highlights they then think everything will happen overnight. Most of what you see was a 5-10 year progression with many setbacks. I will be the first to tell you that it’s not easy and it takes focus, a positive, impactful mindset and hard work. Sitting around watching your favorite tv show is not going to cut it if you want that thing to really move.

I just want you to know it’s not always glamourous. It’s brutal and it’s not for everybody. I want to talk about the moment it all shifted for me. There’s a moment in everyone's life that made them crumble just to be built back up but as a better version of themselves. I remember it was mid 2020 and everyone was isolated because of the pandemic. In my business as a makeup artist and esthetician I couldn’t do face to face appointments which was 95% of my business. I remember feeling lost and looking for how other people were surviving. Listen, I’m filled with FIYAH & FIGHT but DAMN I felt like wtf is this ish?! I truly felt like I was coming undone. I felt like I was losing my identity because for many years I had boxed myself into my beauty brand when truthfully I was so much more.

I cried and asked God why? What’s the lesson and the blessing? Here’s the thing, I had been so busy growing my business I didn’t realize that I stopped nurturing other parts of me and my life. Once I dried my tears I journaled about what I wanted my life to truly look like. Did I want to take on clients every single day and miss out on enjoying raising my family? Did I want to be so busy making money that I miss out on love? The answer was “no”. Then I was also sick of feeling like putting on a dimmed version of myself. This is when I told myself that I’m amazing and to just be me. If people don’t like it that’s fine but at least you know you’ll love it! So, that’s exactly what I did.

I slowly opened myself back up for love and I’m still slowly evolving in that area (ssshh. I’m working on it). I let that heavy wall down so that love can flow and gain access to me. I also pivoted my beauty business (www.MakeiBeauty.com) to focus on what I truly love in my heart and that’s healthy skincare seasoned with beauty education. This pivot in business allowed me to focus on my #1 passion and purpose and that’s helping women like myself elevate by embracing the love story between a woman, her goals, fears, doubts and desires. It’s so important that we don’t stop moving or ignore these parts of us but learn to use them as a tool by embracing them to help us conquer our goals.

I knew I didn't want to always have to be present to make a living and I truly wanted to enjoy life. I deserve to not have to worry about money for bills or how I'm going to feed my family. I much rather spend my time creating memories and providing them with a version of me that empowers them to be and do whatever their heart desires as long as it's positively impacting their life and the world. That meant creating multiple streams of passive income and allowing the abundance mindset to take me over. Honestly, you lack NOTHING. Whenever you start to feel that scarcity emotion. Stop, breathe and tell yourself that you lack nothing. Any and every thing that is yours already belongs to you. It will automatically gravitate towards you so just chill and let the journey continue.

We all have a moment that shifts us and wakes us up to learn to "just be". Be whatever YOU want to be and NOT what society tells you that you should be. Drown the damn noise and get back to the root of you, even if it hurts. I challenge you to journal about a pivotal moment in your life that shifted you. If you don’t feel that you’ve had that moment but can feel a shift within, journal about what’s happening that may be causing that shift to occur.

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