Rejection is Definitely Your Protection

Life is full of teaching moments, however by the time the assignment is being explained I’m shouting “this is a bunch of ol’ b.s.!” I know you can relate because we’ve all said it at one time or another but I guess I’ll be the one to say it aloud. Rejection hurts and I don't like it!

Many of these teaching moments present themselves as rejection. One thing is for sure, rejection does not feel good at all in any season. I don’t care if it’s rejection from a job you really wanted, rejection from your child or rejection from someone you love or have feelings for. Rejection sucks when it is actively working. You could care less about what is happening in the spiritual realm or maybe why the rejection is happening. There's one or maybe two things that I know for sure about rejection.

1. Some rejection is temporary and whatever you were seeking will present itself when you’re truly ready. A lot of times we think we’re ready to handle a certain level of success but we really haven’t truly did all of the necessary steps to prepare for it. So that leads me to the second thing that I know for sure.

2. Rejection is Protection. God and/or the Universe has to protect us and align us at the right moment when everything will flow as it should.

When rejection happens its natural to be a bit sad or even cry but just know you’re being protected. Maybe you really liked a guy but God knew this man is battling demons he still need to acknowledge and address. In this case be grateful that the connection was blocked because you’re not prepared to battle demons (you deserve better) and I’m pretty sure the connection would have brought some level of drama or stress to your life. Now, these are facts but how do you pick yourself up and keep moving even when you’ve been blown backwards.

Here are a few tips that I use when going through a rejection.

1. I’m a cryer. To release that hurt emotion I tend to let my body do so naturally and for me that's with tears. I don’t fight it I embrace it and let it happen and for me when I release tears, it cleanses my soul to give me a bit more clarity of what has happened.

2. Journal your way to clarity. Writing out what happened? How it made you feel and just getting that horrible feeling out of you is therapeutic in it’s own right. Always keep a journal close by to release any thing that you want to talk your way through. Good and bad events happens daily and we don't always want to share them aloud. Most of the answers that you seek from others you can find within yourself if you just ask and listen to your spirit.

3. Pray for understanding and comfort. This should have actually been my number one because before I cry I tend to ask for guidance from God. I don't care what anyone says prayer changes things and gives you an understanding that surpasses any level of peace.

4. Take action. Whether it’s cleaning your home, working on a goal you’ve been wanting to get done. Take action immediately. I find that when I'm busy, my mind is focused only on what I’m doing or creating which is beneficial for me because I’m getting things done and creating a happy space within my spirit which is taking my mind off of the rejection.

5. Give it time. Everything is healed through time. If you fell and skinned your knee, the wound is fresh day one, bleeding, oozing and filled with pain. As the days progress the pain becomes less and less every day. The wound heals and doesn’t get infected as long as you’ve given it proper care. This is the same with the hurt of rejection. I must add that if this pain is coming from rejection of a person please do your best to lessen communication or cease all communication. We often prolong our healing process by keeping in contact with the very same thing or person that caused the pain. Know that you are valuable and you have the power to disconnect from anything and anyone that brings you to a low vibrating place.

We all have different coping mechanisms when we're going through tough times, however I just want to assure you that rejection is definitely your protection. I don't care what it may look like right now I have never been rejected and after I got through the hurt looked back and wanted what rejected me. I've always reflected and could see how God protected me because what I received was so much greater. I know life sucks at times and maybe you sometimes feel like "is it really worth it." I assure you that it is. Through my pain is how I found my purpose. I'm on a mission to tell the love story between a woman, her goals, fears, doubts and desires. There's no way that this platform would have even been conceived had I not gone through the difficulties of life and I'm too still on this journey with you. Feel the sunshine and know that girllll the rejection just protected you.

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