Let Go & Surrender

The one thing I’m learning to do is let go and surrender. We hear that phrase of “life is too short” very often and it always makes you pause and agree. That’s all fine and dandy but what does it really mean? Yes Girl! You have heard people or you, yourself may have even said “life is too short.” When I hear people say that phrase and then I also notice that they still behave like the former version of themselves, I’m not gonna lie, I be giving them the side eye. “Like Ohhhh really SiS! Well hunnnn-TY please behave like LIFE IS TOO SHORT.

This phrase is my reminder to let go and surrender. To be completely honest, that is so hard for me because I do like to be in control of my life just a little bit but when you’re trying to be in control you’re not really allowing God or the Universe (whoever it is that you believe in) to do those amazing things that only He can do. You have your lil self all up in the middle of things messing things up left and damn right. I promise you this will not be a long blog post, however I have to get this out into the airwaves and view waves...lol. When you surrender that simply means to release resistance and submit.

I know this may be hard and let me be clear, it doesn’t mean stop putting towards effort and taking action it simply means to stop resisting the outcomes. Not everything that you want is meant for you or good for you. Always look at this season of your life as a blessing. It's going to hurt but you'll see later that you're going to feel amazing. It's worth the wait and the internal battle.

Some things that I have let go and surrendered to are:

1. Being boxed in as just a "makeup artist" in my career. I know I’m more than that so I surrendered and let God light my path with every gift that he had bestowed upon me. This season is always and forever developing.

2. My Love Life. I’ve always been attracted to a certain type of man and if he wasn’t packaged how I envisioned him I didn’t give him much thought. Well in the past that has left me broken hearted and needing major healing. Now I approach my love life different. Yes I want my man to be pleasing to my eyes not everyone’s eyes. He need to have everything God knows that I need and I need to have everything God knows that he needs. I've accepted that I may not know what I need so yes, I may reject who God has for me initially until God opens my heart and eyes. However, I'm truly embracing and enjoying the journey to that beautiful destination.

3. Finances. I completely stopped “chasing the bag” and truly embraced chasing purpose and saw a total difference in my bank account. You do not chase money, your gifts will make room for you. Your only job is to enjoy the journey.

4. People pleasing. This is a BIG ONE for many of you especially me. I had to give this up and surrender asap because this was truly doing nothing for me but damaging me further. I especially was trying to please friends and family but I felt like whatever I did was never enough and I felt as if I was stuck in an environment that constantly made me sick because I second guessed myself consistently. Then I realized I needed to let go and surrender so that I can be happy and flourish.

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