It's a Trip NOT to Trip

Don’t trip they say, it’s not worth it, he’s not worth it they say. “Now you tripping” is a common phrase people love to use to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do, however when you stop tripping and simply ignore these said individuals, it’s now an issue.

Girl...it’s a trip not to trip! Simply put "it’s a trip not to trip" is just my cute way of saying it’s time to build that “peace” muscle. It’s a hard muscle to build when life is coming at you fast and giving you blow for blow from every angle.

What may make you lose your shit and start tripping is a key indicator that this should be your starting point to building that peace muscle. It reveals to you what the trigger is that drives you further away from peace. I don’t know how to put this gently but your ahz is going to bug the hell out when working on this part of your life. This goal takes focus and time. If you’ve woken up recently and the first thing you said to yourself is “today is going to be a great day.” Right after you make that statement your phone rings or you get a text about some OLE' B.S….Yeaaaa you’re about to lose your shit.

I’ve recently sat with my thoughts and had a conversation with God to ask if today is going to be a test day because if it is, I think we should get notified just like parents do the week our kids have some major test at school. We get a call and/or email that reads something like this:

“Hi Parents! This is a friendly reminder that next week is a major test for your child so make sure they get plenty of rest and eat a hearty breakfast and remind them to do their best and that’s all we can ask of them. Have a great day!”

What that message tells me as a parent is my child may be nervous, have anxiety, be doubtful, irritable and fearful. At that point I know to take it easy on them or at bare minimum I know what to look out for if they start tripping because kids know how to press all of your damn buttons…can I get an AMEN to that one!

It would be so amazing if we had a system like that while we’re out here adulting. If we had a text or messaging system that alerted us when those trip triggers may be on the horizon. Like seriously all my messaging system would need to say is:

“Hi Laketta. This is just a friendly reminder that you may hit some heavy traffic on b.s. boulevard. Please be sure to travel in your safe space today so do your very best not to trip. That’s all we can ask of you. Be prosperous and make it a great day!”

Then I’d know to watch out for some ol’ BULL ISH! But NOOOOOO it feels like the world waits for ish to hit the fan and I promise you that I really do try to quickly calm myself with small prayers and affirmations but GIRL you guessed it I start tripping..lol! Does this happen to any of you or is it just me?

You’d be lying if you didn’t trip occasionally. Honestly, if you haven’t then you must have a lot of built-up toxic energy that need to be released. Even the moments I tell myself not to trip and I don’t trip and decide to ignore the b.s. that people do. At some point down the road it’s going to be a BIG explosion from all of that built up trip-tivity (I made that word up, feel free to use it. Ha! Ha!) that I could’ve released weeks ago.

Yep it’s a trip not to trip. I say all of that to say this, when moments come up that threatens to steal the peace in your life here’s what you do:

• Give yourself grace. It’s going to be ok even if you do react.

• Understand that not every day is going to be peaceful but you can always find peace within.

• Journal about what makes you trip, this helps release the toxic emotions.

Welp, you are at the end of this post. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog because ya girl be tripping!

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