I remember hearing someone say “the bridge to nowhere”. I wish I could re-call where the quote came from but honestly it slips my mind, however I think we all can universally understand the analogy that is being implied with visualizing a bridge to nowhere. When I think of a bridge, I think of a 2 way bridge that’s a bit scary. Here in the Tampa, Florida area it reminds me of the Skyway Bridge (it’s hella scary y’all like seriously!) You can use the same bridge to get to a destination and you can also use it to return back from a destination that you left.
Many times, we can’t truly get to where we’re destined to be because we keep turning back to go back to that place that no longer serves the version we’re becoming. Honestly, when you take a step back and look with fresh eyes. It’s truly “the becoming” that terrifies you. On the exterior you may be wearing your persona of “walk it how you talk it.” Yet internally you’re screaming and grasping for that comfort & security that you’ve become accustomed to. Let me ask you this…has that comfort helped you grow in any way? Has it stretched you to the point that you didn’t know that you were that flexible?
I know for me “comfort” has never made me a better version it just made me the master of the current model of myself. There were no upgrades just mastery of how to get more comfortable at some point doing what I’ve always done. I no longer wanted to be comfortable I wanted to be tested, stretched, broken down and built back up. It’s only when I decided to let my bridge burn that I truly became an asset not only to myself, family and friends but I became an asset to the world. I continue to burn the bridges to nowhere because I need to get to a destination and not having those comforting walls scares me but I know when you have nothing that you’re used to supporting you “support you”, you become an innovator. You become optimistic and you definitely take necessary risks. Listen, you’re talking about someone that loved to build walls to keep out all the hurt that could find me. I used to hide behind walls as an excuse not to pursue an opportunity because of fear.
I learned to allow God (or whatever higher power you believe in) help me stretch and grow. I slowly let walls down to allow love to flow to me, to allow opportunities to come my way so that I can do what I love to do & that’s to help others. I say all of that to say this. I know things are hella scary right now, especially gas prices and let’s not talk about these damn GROCERY PRICES! (shiiiiddd I’m always trying to figure out how much gas or how much food I need…lol). Sis, burn that bridge to nowhere so you can get to where you need to be. Your bridge may be a job, a relationship, financial debt, toxic family members, excuses to start a business, fear of going to the dr; whatever that bridge is for you please burn it down and never return. I challenge you today to journal about the bridge to no where in your life and execute a plan to set it ablaze! This blog is simply a call to action to reassess your life and figure out if you have a bridge that you’re using to run back to familiar territory. It’s time to burn it down!
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